12 Reveille! Fall/ Holiday, 2008 Lanakila News Barnes Boffey, Director Barnes shares some thoughts from the 2008 Lanakila international staff " My name is Ludmila and my home is Czech Republic. I am coming to Aloha this summer in the kitchen and to see America. We don't have camps like this at home. I speak not great English, but I want to learn, I hope people are friendly. I cook at home with my family and I know I can help in the kitchen as way to be hired at camp. I go to university in Civil Engineering and will graduate next year. I hope campers will want to know about my country. I will plan to make a traditional Czech dish, and the director tells me we will have a chance to sing a traditional song and play a Czech game with the campers. I know the kitchen work will be hard, but I can make some money and travel to New York City after camp." H " This place is ' brilliant!' Scotland is my home and I have done work with Pioneering and scouts, but nothing like this. I am in Campcraft for my department, and yesterday we did a skit about Scotland in assembly. Good thing I brought my kilt. I love the structure of camp; we have a lot of that in the UK, but the feeling of community and caring is much stronger here. Kids keep asking about my accent and yesterday I drew a map of Scotland in the sand at the waterfront. Some know about Scottish games, but not much, and next weekend at Olympic Day, the campers will toss the caber and try eating haggis. I think everyone likes having interna-tional counselors here; many people here have never really done as much traveling as we do in Europe. They love the stories we tell, and Americans are so self- assured; it's really different from Scotland." H " What a summer! I never expected that camp in America would change me so much. I was lucky enough to teach the campers ' Rounders' and sing some Aussie songs, but I had no idea how much I would love the traditions and activities and people. At home I felt some of this caring in my church and family, but never with so many people for so long. I arrived thinking how important it was that people knew all about Australia, but when I got there, they mostly just learned about me. My friends keep saying ' All you ever do is talk about camp.' They don't understand and I can't explain it. I did some traveling after camp so I know a lot of The States is a just like our big cities, but camp was absolutely amazing. I even success counseled my sister. I don't think my whole country can be like camp, but maybe I can be and that's a start." Top to bottom: Barnes takes aim; shooting hoops; Lanakila knots

Fall/ Holiday, 2008 Reveille! 13 Barnes Boffey asked his 2008 counselor staff, " If campers were at Lanakila for only one summer, what life lessons would be essential to teach them so that they might become happy and successful men?" The responses included: • In every life situation, the most critical factor in determining our success and happiness is our energy and attitude. We have little control over what life throws at us. The power we have as people is our ability to perceive these circumstances in either a positive or negative light. The stories we tell our-selves about the events of our lives create our emotional response. Happy and success-ful men learn to interpret their lives through a lens of optimism, generosity, faith and courage. • Quality relationships are at the heart of happiness. Close, vulnerable relation-ships based on trust and love are the foundation of being a fine person and leading a happy life. The world tells men to do well; we hope men will do good. But we're not supposed to do it alone. Celebrating our interde-pendence and seeking help from others are signs of maturity, strength and wisdom. The high-est measure of success is being called a good and trusted friend. • Failure is a precursor to success. Whether we like to believe it or not, we learn most from our mistakes. Failures are the obstacles which provide us with experience from which we gain awareness, build strength, hone skills, and prepare ourselves for the next challenge. Mistakes and failures breed creativity and allow us to face life's greatest obstacle: our own fears. • Listening is the key to empathy, perspective, self- awareness, and thoughtful action. Listening to our inner voice re-quires time, discipline, patience and courage. The most important truths we seek are within us. To act in concert with these truths, we need to slow down, pay atten-tion, and cherish moments of personal reflection. Happy and successful men learn to trust their inner voice even in moments of doubt and confusion. Listening to others shows respect for their humanity and is the only way to make wise, fully- informed deci-sions. We can't take advantage of the gifts of others, the beauty of the world, or the strength and diversity of community without intentional listening. • Choosing to be consistently hon-est is both the hardest and most rewarding of all life's challenges. Honesty is the key to self- respect; honesty is the path to becoming the people we want to be; honesty and faith are the antidote to fear. On the other hand, honesty can cause pain; honesty can challenge relationships; honesty can lead to rejection and loss. Happy and successful men choose the prob-lems they respect themselves for having, and honesty brings prob-lems. But in the long run, telling the truth will always bring greater inner satisfaction and more posi-tive results in our relationships with others. As Randy Pausch says in The Last Lecture, " If I could give only three words of advice, they would be: " Tell the truth." If I had three more words, I'd add: " All Top to bottom: Chapin and Rhyan Leather- the time." wood enjoy 4th of July hi- jinks with Barnes; Ethan Demarest and Noah Ruttenberg; Sue Jacques and Moran Berger